Here are some ways to exchange information without gossiping (spreading personal information about someone else).
First offer information about yourself. If you want to find out about a particular area, offer information of your own first to show you can be trusted.
Ask questions indirectly. Use statements with tag questions rather than direct questions, for example, “You know John, don’t you?” rather than “Do you know John?”
Create a personal and friendly relationship with the person you are speaking to. Use the listener’s name and we, us and our in conversation, for example, “I think we’re going to hear a lot more from this band, Peter.”